After having read what PelajarBaru had written, I felt I was in the twilight zone. The degree of the absurdity of the condition in which I've found myself is beyond my imagination. I wouldn't answer back if the accusations were not severely baseless and unfair.
I think my mistake was I didn't start off politely by putting the words 'Dear teachers, Would you please tell me.... or would you be so kind as to .....' Many of the threads here started off like that.... straight to the point. I thought it was directness of openess. But I certainly made the mistake of not starting politely and I think that gives a very bad impression. I don't think it was so much my question. All my threads I have started with Dear Teachers.... and they were answered except this one.
A poster could be polite when asking a question without adding things like "please", "Dear teachers", etc. So, let alone expecting such a prelude I rarely use that kind of opening in my posts when asking. The question itself manifests its politeness/rudeness.You can see that kind of posts using imperatives while adding "please".
If you and Euncu would be so kind as to check my previous posts.
I won't check your previous posts as you did for my posts.
I do not wish to be selfish. So maybe that was the offending part as I have read again and again my words and the many others who also posted here. The situation was I heard some lines spoken on a podcast and wasn't sure and immediately typed it in this forum. That was all. Then somebody just posted here to say he wants to hear my opinion but I don't have opinion on this as they sound right. I don't know the terms or names of grammar.
As a "somebody", all I can say about this is;
If you'd been an older member you would have probably known that it is customary here to expect that the OP don't ask questions directly, first they should try to solve the problems themselves and if they can't figure those questions out , only then they ask the members for their help. This kind of filtering enables the forums to be more effective.
It was just a straight forward confusion for me so I said I don't know and confused, that's why I'm asking. Euncu just shot me with one sentence that implied I am selfish and can't ask members' effort and now as a moderator you said you would said the same thing and that you 'certainly' think it was my homework. I am 74 and I have no homework. My homework is looking after my grandchildren.
What I've just mentioned above applies to this part. I'm really not able to understand by any means how one can infer from what I said such a conclusion (I mean the one about being selfish). As for the age part, in my country, the old people are respected just because of their ages. I think it is based on the assumption that the old people have wisdom but after your baseless accusations, you missed the very opportunity to show that you had one.
As a moderator, you read his words and say he is nothing rude but you read my words and said I am by your words 'I can't say the same for your response.' Which means I am rude. You try to understand his words meaning but you didnt understand my meaning which is not selfish by not wanting to contribute and only asking members' efforts.
Take for example Julianna's post today titled "please,would you like to help me to correct this conclusion" she only put the whole paragraph and Anglika corrected it and Euncu add on without asking her to give her opinion.
Another example is by anupumh. Also today. He asked what will be the correct statement and he posted the questions which looked more like something from homework or test. And Euncu did not ask his opinion but give various answers.
So in other words it was probably just discrimination against me as a cantonese speaker or my nationality from both the MODERATOR and a Turkish person. In all your posts there is not even one that you ask them to give opinion. And in all your posts you answered someone who did not try to answer or give their opinion first.
I took granted that both Julianna and anupumh knew very well how the things were going around here since they were older members. It is both about the counts of posts and the previous interactions among us. So, if you are to talk about a discrimination this might be your basis. I probably wouldn't say the things I had said to you to a member or a senior member.If you called it discrimination among the members, it would have been an accusation to be discussed, but you went way beyond that. Although I am not as touchy as you've been being, what do you imply by emphasizing my nationality? Do you accuse the Turkish people of being racist ? I, definitely,
by no means, can't accept such an accusation. Being a racist is what is the most against my character and the way of my thinking. This is a direct insult ,and the most baseless, the most unfair one. Like in other countries, there are some people in my country who can be called racist/fascist, which correspond just a small portion of the Turkish people. Let alone I am not one them , I don't think they even dream about discriminating against a Cantonese-speaker even if they knew about what the word "Cantonese" is. What makes you think that the Turkish people would be against the Cantonese-speakers, this is very odd.
I have never thought that I would be accused like this way and this is my ultimate answer to your accusations (insults) and my final post to a thread started by PelajarBaru. If you still intend to hold a meaningless grudge against me , there is nothing I can do about this, just like I've said I won't be answering your posts even they involve insults. (Of this matter I believe that the moderators are very sensitive)
