beju
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Since forever I've had a problem with naming these two behaviors, which I think are pretty common especially among couples I've searched the Internet but I realized I don't really know what to search for... So I hope somebody here can help me Sorry in advance for poor descriptions, my English is quite bad, but I hope you will get what I mean.
1. In a discussion (or more likely in an argument :-D), a person I'm talking with sticks to specific word I said, often taken out of context, and tries to build whole new (often ridiculous) logic around that single word, usually diverging from main topic of the discussion. Long story short: I say a word, then suddenly this word, or the way I said it becomes the main topic. How do I call this behavior and how do I confront somebody about it? For example: "You're ... (doing something. But what?)"
2. Trying to find a problem in some specific matter at all costs, or being very strict about smallest mistake somebody made.
In my native language there is a single word for these types of behavior, but I can't imagine that they magically don't occur among native English speakers, so there must be some descriptive way or idioms to "name" them:-D
Thanks in advance for any help!
1. In a discussion (or more likely in an argument :-D), a person I'm talking with sticks to specific word I said, often taken out of context, and tries to build whole new (often ridiculous) logic around that single word, usually diverging from main topic of the discussion. Long story short: I say a word, then suddenly this word, or the way I said it becomes the main topic. How do I call this behavior and how do I confront somebody about it? For example: "You're ... (doing something. But what?)"
2. Trying to find a problem in some specific matter at all costs, or being very strict about smallest mistake somebody made.
In my native language there is a single word for these types of behavior, but I can't imagine that they magically don't occur among native English speakers, so there must be some descriptive way or idioms to "name" them:-D
Thanks in advance for any help!