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My friend who's standing by me has her suitcase in the trunk and I ask her:
Should I take/grab that?
Are both useable?
Should I take/grab that?
Are both useable?
I'd say, "Can I take that for you?" I wouldn't use 'grab', but others might.
Because her suitcase is very big and heavy and I'm a guy, so I feel like I should carry it for her.
Yes, therein lies a dilemma for modern man. Naturally it applies to far more things than carrying suitcases.Aren't there still women who would feel insulted/offended if a man doesn't even offer to help?
But do you see the incredible pressure this puts on a man? Before he opens a door for you, he must know whether you know whether he does it for others as well.I have no problem with a man holding a door open for me as long as I know for certain that he also holds doors open for other men, children, elderly people, disabled people etc.
I was taught to be polite to everyone. I hold doors open for just about anybody. I help the elderly of either gender to cross the street if they appear to need help.
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