Hi,
I once heard 'congratulations' is not a polite term to be said to a female who's recently got married. Is that right?
Thanks.
According to the traditional rules of etiquette, yes. You first address the bride offering her "best wishes" and then you address the groom with "congratulations".
Congratulations imply that he got lucky to get such a woman and also that he pursued her. To say to a woman that she got lucky to get such a man or that she was the pursuer is (considered) insulting to her. Consider this in the context of "traditional" view of courtship where the man had to win the woman.
This is 2011.It depends on the couple. But this rule is outdated for majority of people.
If they're a same sex couple, good luck figuring this out! Gratuitous comments such as this one only serve to demean gay people.
Just wish them both "best wishes" and "all the happiness you deserve" and add "I am so happy for you both!" Nice. This would certainly be appropriate for a same-sex couple.
This is 2011.
Just wish them both "best wishes" and "all the happiness you deserve" and add "I am so happy for you both!"
freezeframe: are you saying that "Mate, you got lucky but it won't last" and "He's not good enough for you, you'll regret this", are not suitable?
Hi,
I once heard 'congratulations' is not a polite term to be said to a female who's recently got married. Is that right?
I'd imagine if they're "traditional" and she's been a debutante, you should probably follow the proper etiquette. If she's a feminist, you'd better not. If they're a same sex couple, good luck figuring this out!
Nor do I. Nor did the gay couple staying with me when we read your post.I don't see how anything I said is demeaning
I don't see how anything I said is demeaning and no offense of any kind was meant but this is off-topic. You are welcome to message me.
Nor do I. Nor did the gay couple staying with me when we read your post.
Mazel tov works so well in so many situations.
It helps, of course, to be Jewish if you want to sound authentic.
Authentic it wasn't. ;-)Oy vey!
(I'm not Jewish, so that won't sound authentic.)
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Having reflected on this, I feel that I overreacted. Please accept my apologies.I will attempt to avoid any personalization in my future posts. :-|
I don't see how anything I said is demeaning and no offense of any kind was meant but this is off-topic. You are welcome to message me.
Having reflected on this, I feel that I overreacted. Please accept my apologies.
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